Hello, I hope you are all well! I just thought I would write a post and share what we do for homeschool. We have been homeschooling for about 5 or 6 years now. During that time we have been through many different curriculums. It takes time and trial and error to find out which type of curriculum works best for each kid. The other factor to consider is timing. My first choice has always been the unit study approach, where both of my kids could work together and we could have a fun lesson as a family. Although it sounds great, in reality, the kids tease each other, go into laughing fits, then argue, then meltdown......

While it may be fun for them, it makes it really hard to get things done.
So, after years of trial having gone through online curriculums, workbook curriculums, unit studies and freelancing it, we have finally found methods that work for each of them.

For my son, who just started high school we decided to go with Monarch from AOP. It is entirely online and keeps records as he goes. Now, ideally he would be able to work on it himself, but at the high school level, things can get difficult so I usually have the lesson open on my computer and am ready to help him with understanding topics, giving feedback etc.
Even when using an online all-in-one curriculum there are tweaks and changes that need to be made. With Monarch there are ALOT of quizzes and tests, in addition to the questions that are answered as the lessons progress. Monarch makes the lessons customizable so I am able to unassign anything I think may be too much.

The other plus is that Monarch can be purchased through a monthly subscription, so that aligns nicely with our budget.

For my daughter, we are using Genesis Curriculum. This is an all in one curriculum based on the book of Genesis. It includes a few workbooks that you can purchase from them or Amazon and most of it is done offline. I use website to supplement or for visual aids.
A few years ago, we used Easy Peasy All in One Homeschool, which is a free online curriculum. It was created by a Christian woman for her kids. As the years have gone by she has added more and more classes. And now, she has an entire highschool curriculum. You can find it at . I am using both of these sites to supplement classes like Art and Music for both kids, and Spanish for my 9th grader.

So, that is it. Our curriculum. We try to stick with those that have a Christian base, and of course cost is always a factor. Monarch is around $40 per month for one child, Easy Peasy and Allinonehighschool are completely free. Genesis curriculum was less than $100 for all of the books when I bought them and I had purchased enough for 2 kids.

Here I am Lord, send me....

" I began to despair of ever doing anything with my life other than taking care of my children."

"How blind I was! Children with special needs are not a curse. They’re a ministry, and if you have had one, then God has called you to this ministry. I kept on telling God, “Here I am! Send me!” when God had already sent my ministry to me from the moment my daughter was born." (bold accent added by me) 

The above quotes are From:

This amazing article was shared on Facebook recently. In it, the author speaks about having a heart to serve God. She tells how she said to God..."Here I am, send me" but then the realities of having children with special needs hit her and she almost gave up those dreams. I have been there. I AM there. 
I have felt such a yearning for missions, I want so badly to follow God wherever He may lead. So much so, I am halfway through my Seminary degree with a special focus on intercultural ministry. When the realities of caring for and raising my youngest children, whom both have special needs hit me, I wondered, why? Didn't God want to use me? What I was missing was the fact that He already is. I am just learning that serving God does not look the same for all of us. 
There are many of us out there....parents of kids with special needs. Some needs are profound, some visible, some not so visible, but all challenging in many ways. 

I feel like God is raising up an army of special needs families, who will stand up and say together "Here I am, send me." Send me to share your word, to show the world the beauty and uniqueness of your creations. 

Isaiah 6:8 Then I heard the voice of the Lord saying, "Whom shall I send? And who will go for us?" And I said, "Here am I. Send me!"

Encountering God

Hello! Fall is here and I just love the changing colors and cooler air. Another thing I love is the opportunity to get closer to God through women's retreats and conferences. 
This year I went to a conference called Women's Encounter. This one was different than what I have experienced before, as it was focused on the Holy Spirit and prophetic ministry. 
As I said, this was a new experience for me! It started out with a couple named Kimberly and Alberto Rivera. You can check out their website HERE! 
The music was beautiful and as Kimberly sang, Alberto played the keyboard and encouraged the listeners to praise God and pray in the Spirit. It was a time for us all to soak in the music and come into the presence of God. It was freeing and peaceful and glorious all at the same time. 

I am someone who grew up in a more conservative church tradition. So, attending things like this can be a little scary for me, but this time, it was just peaceful and wonderful!
After the music sessions there were speakers. They were passionate women who had a heart for women and God's place in our lives. 
What I think I enjoyed the most was that this was one of those experiences where the messages shared fit exactly with what I have been struggling with. I felt like God was speaking to me through these women. What a wonderful feeling! =) 

Lately I have been struggling once again with anxiety. I won't go into details but I have just really been feeling like the enemy has been wreaking havoc in my mind. Fear and worry and anxiety has been rampant. I think this is something that a lot of us struggle with. You know, those voices you hear that tell you that you are not enough. Your house is too messy, your children are too unruly, you aren't doing enough, your too this or not enough of that. This can be so destructive! When I listen to these voices, I start thinking "why am I in seminary? I don't have what it takes, I am not Godly enough!" But this is a lie! 

One of the speakers in the conference spoke of this. How she was listening to those voices and started to really feel depressed. She shared how it made her feel like God couldn't use her and even though she tried to hide it, she began to question her ministry. 

Why do we listen to these voices? I think it is because we don't often realize where these voices are coming from. They are disguised as our own, but they come from the enemy! 

We need to begin to recognize where these voices are coming from and shut them down if they are not from God Himself. 
How do we do this? Well, the Bible says the enemy comes to lie, steal, and destroy! This is written in John 10:10 :
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.

So, when you hear that voice that condemns, or causes guilt and shame, recognize that this is NOT from God! 

What does God's voice sound like? It is comfort, love and reassurance. God does correct, but He does it with gentle conviction and love. I found this great article from Joyce Meyer called Scriptures for a Sound Mind. Check it out HERE!  It talks about what to do when you recognize the enemy's attempt to put lies into your mind. 

Practically speaking what does this look like? I have begun to really pay attention to what I am listening to in my mind. As soon as I hear a voice that I know is not from God, I immediately say to myself "This is a lie! I am a child of God!"And I consciously remind myself that I am who God says who I am! Fearfully and wonderfully made! 

Psalm 139:13-16 says:
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them.

The more I do this, the more I recognize and shut down the works of the enemy. And the more I tune in to God's voice and who I am in Him! 

I hope this message was helpful to someone. God Bless You!

Holding His hand.....

Jesus and I are on quite the journey! Since finding out that we had alport syndrome I have been holding my breath wondering when and if I myself will face kidney decline.
Yesterday was a big day for me, I had scans on my kidneys (to check for problems) and neck (to check for any cancer recurrence). I also had blood drawn to check kidney function and cancer markers. Good news is my kidneys are doing well. Other than a little protein in my urine along with the blood, my kidneys are doing their job still. I realized I had been really worried that I was going to find out my kidneys were already failing. I am not ready! Not that I will ever be, but I just want a chance to be healthy and move forward.
Now, since I have had all of that checked, (pending my cancer labs) I just want to focus on health and life!
We are still working on our property, there have been ups and downs, but we are working hard and moving forward as often as we can (at least every weekend.)
The other thing I am working on is a larger lifestyle change. The only treatment or way to delay kidney decline in my son and myself is to concentrate on a good healthy diet and exercise. I bought a great book on kidney disease and diet that includes meal plans, so I am trying to follow it to the T.
Check out my instagram for more udates. =) Seminarynurse

Getting closer to God

Well, these past few months have  been a bit of a trial. Sometimes it's hard to understand why life takes the turns it does.
My daughter was finally assessed by a child psychiatrist. The results were not what I was expecting. I I had it suggested to me that she may be on the spectrum. But the psychiatrist didn't think so. After a few sessions we were told that our daughter has ADHD and generalized anxiety disorder in addition to her sensory processing disorder and dyspraxia. These were diagnoses we already had. What was new was the way that the psychiatrist discussed it. In her words, my daughter is "severely disabled" by these diagnoses. The psychiatrist actually asked if I wanted my daughter to be able to live independently as an adult. I had never thought about her behavior or challenges as disabling. I guess I am just used to her.
So, now we are on a new plan. We are considering medication for both the ADHD and anxiety. It seems the challenges of dealing with the sensory processing while her mind is racing from the ADHD and anxiety is much more of a challenge than I every imagined.

Then there is my son. We just found out he has Alport syndrome. It is a genetic disorder that effects the kidneys, eyes and ears. The statistics are not good. 50% of boys with this disorder will have kidney failure by age 21 and the rest by age 40. In addition, many if not most all, also experience profound hearing loss and eye abnormalities. So, if that's not enough, since it is genetic, it is carried by the mother. So, my mother has the gene as well as myself and likely my oldest son as well. So we are also at significant risk for kidney failure. The only real treatment is a kidney transplant.

I am sure I don't need to tell you that this has been a challenging and somewhat scary time.
Our future is uncertain.
But I was reminded last night what I heard from God during my cancer battle 3 years ago. He told me that He had set me aside, for a time to get closer to Him. That my cancer was a time to realize that He is all that I have and really all that I need.

Last night as I was thinking about my sons and their future. I felt that I shouldn't look at this as a curse or a bleakness in their future, but as an opportunity for them to get drawn to Him.

A grand lesson in being set apart and getting to know the Lord in an intimate way.


Well, it's been a year since I started Seminary. It is hard to believe it has been that long. Looking back on the past year, it has been interesting! I wasn't sure what to expect when I started all of this. There were a few times I thought I must be crazy! Here I am, homeschooling my two children, working weekends as a hospice nurse, ferrying my kids to doctor appointments for their various needs and managing a household. Oh, and lets add graduate school!

But you know what? It was such a blessing! Yes, there is ALOT of reading, and yes there are ALOT of papers to write. But each book I read or research I conducted blessed me fourfold! There is just something so wonderful about immersing myself if God's word and reading books of people who focus on God for a living! It was just amazing.

So, now, things have changed quite a bit. For one, summer is here so we aren't doing homeschool right now.

Second, I recently resigned from my position as a hospice nurse. There are a few reasons for this, the increasing needs of my daughter and the fact that we are moving out of the area this summer. And lastly, I am busy packing up our house for our upcoming move.

Looking back on the past year, I am just thankful to God for being with me through it all. I could feel His hand guiding me and showing me things that really opened my eyes. I also can see Him guiding me and forming in me a burden for His children. Things are all coming together. I am so excited to see how the next year will go and see where He is leading me.

When I start back up in the Fall, I am a bit nervous as I will be taking Greek. I have never learned a second language before so this will be a challenge, but I will push through!

Also, we will be in our new house on our property. Our financial situation will have changed as our land will be paid off and we will be off grid. Also, I will begin to work on and start our farm. We plan on having chickens, sheep, rabbits, lots of fruit trees and veggies.
So, it seems we are on the verge of a whole new world!

I truly believe that God has a purpose in all of it. I have seen inklings of His work in the areas of special needs ministry and what He has in store for us in Goldendale. I will keep you posted!

finding balance....

Finding balance is something I struggle with. Especially with two kids who have special needs. Just the past two weeks we have had 5 or 6 medical appointments between the two of them. In addition to this, I am just starting a new term in Seminary. As the needs of my kids increase I have thought about whether going to Seminary right now is practical or makes sense. As anyone with special kids knows, all of the appointments, therapy, schooling etc. can quickly take up most of your time.
I thought about it and came to the conclusion that when God called me, He knew what would be going on in my life. He took all of that into account. So I can trust that He will equip me with what I need to be able to be successful in Seminary.
The other thing is, that with the exception of the really LONG papers due, Seminary just blesses me time and time again. I find myself really enjoying and being fascinated by what I am learning. I have this hunger inside to know and understand the Bible, Jesus and how to share this message with others. So, I will keep going. I will trust the Lord and know that He is walking beside me throughout this journey.

Getting closer to an answer?

Well, I finally feel like we may be making some progress on helping my daughter. She has suffered with constipation and stomach aches for most of her little life. At times it has been very bad, with her doubled over crying for hours.
We have seen many doctors and had many tests, all with no results that explained what is going on. She has had an egd, ph probe, many blood tests and on and on. About 5 years ago I asked if they would do a test for SIBO, which is Small Intestinal Bacterial Overgrowth, but was told that her symptoms didn't fit so no, they would not test for it. I trusted the doctor, I moved on.
Last year I brought up her stomach aches again with her pcp and was told that she had all the tests possible and we would probably have to find out what the problem is on our own with diet. I had almost given up. (WHAT IS SIBO?)

 Small intestinal bacterial overgrowth (SIBO) refers to a condition in which abnormally large numbers of bacteria are present in the small intestine, while the types of bacteria found in the small intestine are more like the bacteria found in the colon.
Small intestinal bacterial overgrowth (SIBO) is also known as small bowel bacterial overgrowth syndrome (SBBOS).

Well, this year, we have different insurance so we had a different pediatrician. Again I brought up her stomach aches, she asked if we would like to touch base with a GI doctor one more time. I thought about it and said sure, but asked that we see a different one than we had seen before so we could have a fresh set of eyes on the situation.
 A few weeks later, we saw a gastroenterologist. She went over my daughters history, and we talked about putting her back on meds for her constipation and I tried one more time to ask about SIBO. She said she didn't think that was the answer, but agreed to do the test anyway if I wanted her to. So I said yes, let's do it, if nothing else, we can rule it out and I will finally give up looking for an answer.

Well, yesterday we had the test done! She had a hydrogen breath test.

Hydrogen breath test (HBT)

Bacteria that live in the colon are capable of digesting and using sugars and carbohydrates as food. When the bacteria normally present in the colon digest sugars and carbohydrates, they produce gas. This is usually carbon dioxide, but also smaller amounts of hydrogen and methane. Although most of the hydrogen and methane produced by colonic bacteria is used up by other bacteria, small amounts of these gases are absorbed through the lining of the colon and into the blood. The gases circulate in the blood and go to the lungs, where they are eliminated in the breath. The gases can be measured in the breath with special analysers.

We had to be at the hospital at 0800! We live an hour and a half away so this meant getting up at 530 am and leaving by 6. Not fun. Anyway, my daughter had to stop eating by 8 pm the night before and couldn't have anything but water the morning of. We got to the hospital and were brought into a small room with some equipment. They gave her a drink with lactulose in it, and then began having her blow into a contraption fit with a syringe so they could collect the gases she exhaled and put it into a machine that would measure the hydrogen and methane gas. This was done every 15 minutes for 3 hours. While we were there, we watched a movie, played games, walked around.

During the test I was able to see the results of each gas collection and how it trended. The tech wasn't allowed to interpret the results, but she did tell me what they were looking for and it was quite obvious that the results were positive. Her numbers were really high and peaked just at the right times for a diagnosis of SIBO.
After the test we went to the cafe and ate hamburgers! Not real healthy, but we were so hungry!

So, now I wait for the call from the GI doctor to get the official results and what the next steps are.
In a way, it is all a bit overwhelming. First, I will have immense relief when I hear officially that we have an answer for the years of stomach aches. But then, there is all of this evidence that SIBO can be related to SPD, ADHD and Autism. How much of her behavioral concerns may be related to this condition?
For now, I am taking it one step at a time.

UPDATE: The doctor called the next day and confirmed that my daughter does indeed have SIBO. She is on a pretty powerful antibiotic to remedy this and hopefully we will see some results!

Who knew this would be so difficult? Autism assessment.

Well, it has been over a month since I began searching for someone to assess and diagnose my daughter for aspergers. At first, we were referred to a clinic at the children’s hospital for assessment. It sounds great! They have a whole team of therapists and doctors who see the kids and provide support. I got all of the paperwork in the mail, pages and pages of forms to fill out, plus pages and pages of copies to make to send in. I got through all of it, scanned it all and emailed it in, then called to check in and was told the wait list for her to be seen would be 12-18 months!

That is too long by! We need help now! Next I contacted the insurance company to find out what doctors or clinics would be covered. The phone call was weird! I had to go through the mental health insurance providers, they asked me all these mental health questions about her and I. Do we feel we would harm ourselves or others? (you mean like her melting down and punching me?) Anyway, it was a long weird call, at the end of the call they said they would send me a list of who they covered.

In the mean time I found a clinic through a different hospital system that assessed for autism, I made the call, got the referral sent over and then a few days later was told they couldn’t see her when I called back to check in.  When I asked why, they were cryptic and said I would have to talk to my daughters Dr. I called the doctor and it turns out this clinic doesn’t see kids over 9 and by the time we would see them she will be 10. Why couldn’t they tell me that?

So I waited for the list. I got the list in the mail, and started making calls. One had a great website, I called and was told the doctor would call me to see if he thought he would be willing to see her. He called me a day later and after asking a few questions he said he would see her. But he sounded cold, kind of pompous, not really someone I can see being therapeutic with my daughter. He said they would call me back in a month or so to schedule, I am leaving it out there just in case.

Then I called the one that had a Christian background. I was excited about this one. He sounded very nice,  again the doctor himself called me, but he sounded very hesitant, said he was about to retire and wasnt sure he wanted to get into it. I made an appt but after talking to my husband we decided this might not be the best person.

Finally, I found a clinic with many doctors and disciplines that the insurance covers! yay!!!! So I called and there is no wait list. Just the process of referral, clinical coordinator review and insurance verification. Finally we are half way there!!!!!

I am not alone!

Raising children with special needs is very challenging! One of the tough things is feeling isolated and alone. As you probably know if you are a special needs parent, getting out can be difficult! I feel like I am constantly on alert.
Will my child be able to handle going to the park today? Can she handle playing with another child, going to my friends house, going to the grocery store, staying home with her brother so I can go to Bible study? Lately, the answer is no.
Because of this, I tend to stay home, not have friends, not go to Bible study or lunch dates, but stay home and try to help my child learn to navigate this world successfully.
Staying home with little interaction with other moms means I have a lot of time to my own thoughts, time too stew over my childrens behavior and google! Not good. =)
So today I decided to google homeschooling and aspergers. My daughter will be evaluated soon for aspergers due to some increasing difficulty she is having. I found this wonderful, beautiful blog post from a woman who is doing just that, homeschooling a child with aspergers. What a breath of fresh air! I am not alone! Someone else is going through this! Someone else knows what it is like to wonder if there is really something challenging their child or if they just screwed them up by being a bad parent! I am not alone!
Here is a link to the post-
I hope it can be inspirational for someone else.

It’s raining

Okay, I am going to talk about something that I wasn’t sure I wanted to share. I struggle with depression and anxiety. I don’t think anyone but my husband would know. I continue to function as normal on the outside. I do what I have to do. I think being a parent to special needs children makes it a little more likely to recur. I’m not sure about others but there are a lot of things we just don’t do, places we don’t go because my daughter just handle the stimuli. I used to try to just do what we normally would and figured she would have to just deal with it. I had the advice of a family member ringing in my ear from a few years ago-  “I never let my kids behavior dictate what we did, they just had to deal with it.” I thought this was what being a good parent was. Don’t spoil them! Don’t let them control the family! But let me tell you, when you have a child with add, spd and possibly on the spectrum, ignoring their neurodevelopmental differences and forcing activities that are difficult for them to handle is a sure fire way to ruin everyone’s day and come home with guilt, anger and sadness.
Anyway, one way I deal with depressive episodes is to go do things, be active. But my parenting experience is so isolating right now, that’s just not possible. I tried going to a Bible study weekly, but since we homeschool that meant my 14 yr old would babysit my 9 year old. Lately her behavior has gotten to the point where he just can’t watch her sometimes. So, no more Bible study. We tried organized activities, church, sports lessons, but she just couldn’t handle it. Would dread going and/or end up in tears.
So, limited activities plus depression is tough. I will get through, I always do. Lots of prayer and the assurance that this is just a season. Thanks for listening.